Unless You Live Under a Rock, Shadow is in Your Face And All Up in Your Business -- and You Blame Others for it.

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Unless You Live Under a Rock, Shadow is in Your Face And All Up in Your Business -- and You Blame Others for it.

by Philippe Lewis

But don't just take my word for it.

I love articles about the "Love and Light" spiritual bypass crap that goes from the indirect bypass/shaming/guilting/shunning all the way to the loud "calling out" of anyone that doesn't behave with pure "love and light" in their heart. 

Well, I've got news for you: unless you've lived under a rock (or in cave, how spiritually romantic), and were raised by the perfect parents (which simply don't exist), then as you've circled the sun you've come to realize that you're not only living in a REAL and GRITTY world, you're also likely accumulated shadow/shit/stuff faster than you can integrate it. And if not you, then the people around you who you have to live with, deal with and be in relationship with. 

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Men, Your Erection Is Not A Sacred Cow

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Men, Your Erection Is Not A Sacred Cow

(PS: AND BLUE BALLS ARE A POOR EXCUSE FOR WANTING SEX)

by Philippe Lewis

Our society has evolved you to think that your erection is a sacred thing.

When you are hard, women are told that something needs to happen: you need to be pleasured, touched, you need to fuck, hump, grind. Everyone has to do something about it.

When you are soft, it apparently means you're not interested or that the person who is with you is not doing something right, not hot enough, not touching you right, not doing what you want in bed. It's someone else's fault.

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6 Sensational Steps to Awaken your Sensuality (Lucidity Festival Blog)

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6 Sensational Steps to Awaken your Sensuality (Lucidity Festival Blog)

by Philippe Lewis

There is a sensual animal in all of us, waiting to be awakened. Quite often this totemic intelligence becomes inhibited from expressing itself through us, because we can grow up with very mixed signals about touch. Touch is always a sensation, and yet often, our experiences can lead us to developing mixed signals about the inherent pleasure of touch and touching. Sometimes we need practices to rewrite our relationship to touch, so that we can expand the fluency of our ability to communicate with it, and thus, to expand the quality of our social and intimate interactions.

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5 Sensual Steps to Unlock the Meaning of Touch (Lucidity Festival Blog)

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5 Sensual Steps to Unlock the Meaning of Touch (Lucidity Festival Blog)

by Philippe Lewis

For many of us, touch is both something we seek, and something which, perhaps due to unpleasant experiences, we avoid. Unravelling the hidden meanings we associate both with our touching others and with our being touched by others can open us to new possibilities in our enjoyment of social situations, and our feelings of safety and trust in intimate ones.

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6 Sensuous Steps to Speak With Your Touch (Lucidity Festival Blog)

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6 Sensuous Steps to Speak With Your Touch (Lucidity Festival Blog)

by Philippe Lewis

We’ve all seen it or imagined it: the man or woman who is supremely confident in their ability to embrace their lover and see them immediately surrender and open. It’s as if they were able to silently communicate their desires so powerfully that their lover was instantly seduced, as if under a spell. In many ways, you are right: this person is in fact able to speak to their lover in a way that is much deeper than with any words: they are speaking with their body.

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EMOTIONAL STABILITY: The Road To Becoming Secure Is Taking The Training Wheels OFF

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EMOTIONAL STABILITY: The Road To Becoming Secure Is Taking The Training Wheels OFF

This article about (somatic) balance between dance partners perfectly reflects what happens between people with secure and insecure attachment styles. 

CREATING EMOTIONAL STABILITY

Secure people constantly create emotional balance for those who are insecure, and as such they *stabilize* insecure people, making them feel as if they are secure and secure -- but the truth is that they are still insecure. 

On the journey of developing a secure attachment style, while it can be good to have secure anchors around us so we're not constantly struggling, it's important to go out and practice without training wheels. 

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The Path to Personal Transformation

by Philippe Lewis

This is something I've been considering for a long time. And with my latest interest in attachment theory, it will change. And perhaps each piece will make it as a chapter into a book one day. I will call the book: "The Sensitive Soul: A path to transforming our greatest sensitiviies into our greatest gifts -- and live happily ever after!"

Here are the steps:

1. We don't know notin' and impacting others left and right. We get triggered and we go off on others and ourselves. This is us at our most ignorant.

2. An opening, a crack in the armor appears (significant events, transformational courses, life changes are good at this)

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You Are Enough

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You Are Enough

I know that (some of) you want me or a man or another person to tell you you are enough, to know what someone outside of you believes that you are perfect as you are, that you are worth it. 

But it's not for me to say. 

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Are You Ready To Show Up Powerfully For Women?

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Are You Ready To Show Up Powerfully For Women?

by Philippe Lewis

Showing up powerfully for women means supporting them in a way that increases their power and freedom.

To support and empower women, you need to learn to "get" them so that when they grow and learn and face challenges and get triggered, you move with them without surprise, without reaction, without fear. 

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Thank You For Your Trust

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Thank You For Your Trust

by Philippe Lewis

Thank you for your trust. Like for many women, I get that it might not be easy to allow a man to get close to you, to touch you or have sex with you, that it is a big deal to let me in because even though you've developed amazing discernment skills to figure out which man is for real and which man isn't, there's still a chance a man will come in under the radar and take something from you because he feels entitled to your body or your heart. I get it's not easy to tell if I'm one of those men or not, regardless of what I say or do.

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Graceful Connections: The 5 keys to What Women Want

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Graceful Connections: The 5 keys to What Women Want

by Philippe Lewis

Last summer, I went to a festival with a lover. As I picked her up from the airport and first saw her, something in my body shifted, a pleasurable feeling arose. I said “How do you feel?”. She said “I’m so excited to see you!”. As her words sunk in (and lips connected with mine), they met with the feelings in my body, confirming what I already knew. I asked “What would you like most for the weekend?”, and she responded “For us to dance and make friends and enjoy each other deeply! But I will need to get some good sleep too -- I had a big week!”. Again, all of her words, body and gaze spoke to me of a particular “way” that she was, right at that moment, moving in a certain direction, with some internal “destination” in mind. I was reading her with all my senses, and all that she was expressing every moment was confirming that I was reading her well. “I might need to keep you up longer than you think”, I said with a wink, and her response was, with a beaming smile, “Not if I’m the one keeping YOU up!”.  

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7 Steps To Apologizing And Clearing Your Karma

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7 Steps To Apologizing And Clearing Your Karma

by Philippe Lewis

If you hurt someone, an apology is the most powerful way to clear things up / dissipate karma. Here's how we do it:

1. Ask the other person to tell you the impact your actions had on them. Make sure the other person knows you really get it.

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7 Most Important Areas to Examine When Opening Your Relationship

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7 Most Important Areas to Examine When Opening Your Relationship

by Philippe Lewis

When looking at opening your relationship, what I recommend to established couples is that they look a the following areas first:

  1. Have a solid relationship based on a common vision for the future

  2. Have a good sense of why each partner selfishly desires non-monogamy

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